One woman expressed it in a way that made me understand.
She said, “My man loves me so much he is willing to show me his worst.”
I don’t know why I understand it, but I do. To have someone love you so deeply they’d strike you, burn you, lock you up. Well, you had to stick around when it was all over with. Loyalty counts. If he shows that much care, you can’t help but stay, to earn his trust. To thank him. To honor him.